Stubbornness v dementia

How the f**k to you tell the difference between them? She went to her hospital appointment yesterday. But she was 'Disgusted' and felt she was being treated like a child' The exercises they showed her are ones she had already been shown while in West heath (or was it during one of her earlier admissions to Selly Oak?) But she said something about yellow tape and walking along it? Now is she making that up or is it pasrt of the assesment? Apparently they all had to do it.

She said one male patient asked her if she was going to bother going back on Thursday (the implication being he wasn't) She told me she had decided to see how it went for one more session.


So was she disgusted? Was she just being stubborn and making the point that she cans still decide what she goes to - or doesn't go to? Or was the whole tale a fantasy born out of dementia?

All this was over the phone so I had no body language to give me any clues. I have no idea if she is going to go on Thursday or not. At this point I think she DOES mean to attend. But I am going to see her tommorrow after work, so I may get a better idea then.

I am almost tempted to offer to go with her on Thursday just to see what goes on.

Its only Tuesday and already I am thinking ahead to the weekend and how I can fit in anything I need to do for her. Saturday Steve wants to go shopping for curtains and things, and he has invited Judy along as well - so this is my first chance to meet her. Sunday is Fathers Day and Steve will be coming over to give Tony a Father;'s Day present - something he has never done before. So if anyone thinks I am missing THAT they have another think coming, and Tony and I are going out Friday night and Sunday night. Thursday may be my only chance to do things for her.

I may just tell work I am taking the day off even if Edna doesn't want me to go to Mosely Hall with her. The manager knows I have a elderley relative who needs my time so I wouldnt have to give long explanaitions. I'll think about it.


If she does need some shopping I can get it and deliver on Friday on the way to where we are going. It is almost on our direct route to Rachels. Friday is not being cancelled - it is Tony's first chance to meet our godson Daniel.

As a working Mum I often used the analogy of being a juggler trying to keep plates spinning on poles. This isnt like that - but it is as if I am waiting to see if I have to go on stage to do my juggling act. I am nervous aboutwhether I will get the call to do it, and nervouse about whether I will be able to give an adequate performance.

I gues sit comes down fear of the unknown.